If you’ve been trying to get pregnant for some time now, you’re probably no stranger to a negative pregnancy test. Some women develop a tolerance to a negative result after a while, but most find each successive test harder to take and even harder to deal with the negative result. Following fertility treatment, the disappointment felt after a negative test is even greater.
Dealing with the onslaught of emotions experienced, such as the anxiety that perhaps you could still be pregnant, sadness thinking you probably aren’t again this month, can be difficult.
Disappointment is (unfortunately) all around us in life. It is very likely that you have experienced disappointment in other areas of your life, we all have. Therefore there is not a lot you can do to avoid it but you ABSOUTELY can control how you cope with it.
Here are my 6 strategies for coping with a negative pregnancy test……
1. Acknowledge what you are feeling
Be honest with yourself. Drill down to the exact emotions you are feeling. Consider their validity – to you those feelings and emotions are very real. How do they really make you feel?
2. Put things in perspective
Take the time to step back a little and reflect on what has happened. Don’t panic in the face of disappointment. Nothing has changed, you might not like the reality but you are exactly where you were previously and there is no need to feel panic. Consider how much of THIS months disappointment will have an effect on how you feel in a week, month or a year from now.
3. Refuse to doubt yourself
There is nothing like a negative pregnancy to make you feel like a failure. You may berate yourself for allowing to feel hope in the first place but the world would be a very sad place if you didn’t allow yourself to feel hopeful and happy when you can. You may feel that you are all alone in feeling disappointed but disappointment is not unique to you, we all experience it. Rather than allowing yourself to give in to negative thoughts, consider if there is anything different you could try next month. You might want to try a course of acupuncture, buy some different supplements, take up some relaxation or practice mindfulness.
4. Look for the Silver Lining
It may be initially hard to find but there is always a positive in every negative situation. Give yourself time to reflect and you’ll find it.
5. Practice Acceptance
Avoid playing the blame game. Don’t blame yourself or your partner for the negative pregnancy test. Disappointment is part of life but all parts of our life help us to learn and grow. Your journey so far has made you the person you are today.
Sometimes disappointment is a timely reminder to reevaluate our priorities. Has life become all about trying to conceive? Does trying to conceive define you and your relationship? You may need to change your focus and put back the You in to your life. Distraction is a fantastic tool for coping with disappointment. Spend more time doing what you love, alone or with the people you love and give yourself permission to enjoy life.
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